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Being the wife in a military family is not an easy thing. Military families go through a lot of problems and experiences. Getting through them takes patience, skill, and most importantly, a sense of humor. Listed below are some tips on how to survive being a wife in a military family.

1. Learn to be independent. Odds are, your spouse will spend time away from home for various reasons. This means you will be in charge of bills, cooking, cleaning, childrearing, etc. If you can't handle this without your spouse, you will never be able to survive as a military wife. This is true whether or not you work outside the home.

2. Be prepared for things to happen. Your spouse leaves for an extended period of time. All hell breaks loose in the house. This can include any or all of the following: illness of you or kids, car breaks down, anything in the house breaks down, death and natural disasters. The important thing is to go with the flow. Know that things happen. Don't live your life in fear, but don't be surprised when things happen.

3. Know that you will move every few years. It is the rare military person that spends years in one place. Know that you will move, and if they military pays to move you, as opposed to you moving yourself and the military paying you, that things will probably get broken or damaged. There's an old joke about military families buying all their stuff at Wal-Mart, because they have to replace things all the time. As has been stated: things happen. Be prepared to move at a moment's notice.

4. Perhaps the most important thing is to keep a sense of humor! If you don't have a sense of humor, you will NEVER be able to be a military wife. A sense of humor will get you through the hard times: illness, moving, problems, etc. One day, you will look back on your experiences. It is better to laugh about them to look back and lament the things that went wrong.

These 4 tips will help you make the adjustment from being a "normal" civilian to being a military wife. The military life is never easy, but it is never boring, either. It's a different way of life, but one that can be lived with much enjoyment!