Writing Wedding Vows
How should you go about writing your own wedding vows? What kinds of things can you do to bring out the deepest in meaning and love in your statements?
Traditional wedding vows can often be some of the most rewarding words a couple ever says to each other. They have deep symbolic and religious meaning. But they may not personalize your wedding like you think your wedding should be conducted. You may even consider writing your own wedding vows.
What should you consider before writing your own vows?
There are a few questions you definitely need to know the answer to before you go off and write the most magical message of love you've ever created. The most important thing you need to know is whether your religion allows you to write your own vows. Many religions have strict guidelines as to what can and cannot be said or read or changed during a wedding service. The other thing you need to consider is whether it's truly what you and your prospective spouse want to do. Once you've been given the go-ahead by your chaplain and your bride or groom, it's time to get out the pen and paper.
What should you say in your vows?
Your personal vows are not something you just jot down and be done with. You need to make sure they come from your heart. Here are some things to consider when you sit down to write your vows.
• Ask yourselves why you love each other.
• Ask what it was about the other person you first noticed when you met that put that sparkle in your eye.
• Ask whether there was one particular event in your relationship that caused the two of you to turn toward marriage.
• Ask what you think of when the words "commitment," "love," "marriage," and "trust" enter your minds.
• Ask what your feelings are about what life will be like when you grow older with each other.
• Ask what your feelings are about religion. Find out whether there's a common religious bond that you want to mention.