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You want to find more happiness in life. You want to be a happier person, right? I do also, and so does everyone else I know of. It is a natural feeling to want happiness in your life. Most of us are aware that if one achieves happiness in his or her life, they will be more ready to be of help to others and society as a whole. Having happiness within ones life also has a remarkable effect on ones health. Happiness is not a "cure-all", but it definitely is an asset. If you as an individual are not happy yourself, how then can you even begin to help others achieve happiness?

Let's take a look at happiness. What does the word happiness mean? Just what is the basis for happiness? What can one expect to feel or experience when they are truly happy? What else, if anything, affects one's happiness? We will take a look at all of these questions as well as taking a look at the possibilities of controlling, influencing, and affecting your own happiness.

Happiness for each individual is a seperate case. Each has his or her own concept of what happiness means to them. Think carefully. If you want to become a happier person, you must first discover what it is that you are really looking for; what it is that you believe will make you happier. We need to define happiness both in general for ourselves and most importantly within our own individualities.

What is happiness? On a whole, most everyone thinks of happiness as a sense of contentment and/or well-being within the context of our lives. We look at happiness in reference to our individual satisfaction with the way our lives are headed. To a certain extent, this is true. For example: If all is going well on the job, your relatives are all treating you well and if you are experiencing a happy homelife, you will experience more happiness within your life. Right? So, your happiness in part depends on external persons and circumstances which come and go in your life.

Though this may be true, it is unfortunately not essential to your happiness. Outward circumstances and other people are not the only controlling factor causing your happiness. A perfect example is that sometimes all is going well within ones life, yet the happiness is not there. We may even become depressed.

Have you ever experienced the holidays when you are gathering with family and friends? You have exchanged gifts and merriments, yet you find yourself in a sad or depressed mood for some reason. So, you see, we cannot say that our happiness depends only on the circumstances in our lives. There are other things that affect our happiness.

If happiness is not just contentment with our status or conditions in life, what else is happiness?

This is important to realize. HAPPINESS IS AN EMOTION. It is a feeling or mood, isn't it? Happiness is a feeling that one has. You may experince this feeling mant times when the conditions in life are favorable or when you are satisfied with your circumstances. HAPPINESS IS A FEELING; IT IS AN EMOTION OR A MOOD.

What really happens when one experiences an emotion? The root of the word emotion means to "move". An emotion is your physical body's response to outward circumstances or in fluences. It is a reaction to your body; it's something physical. You can feel things happen inside your body.

If someone experiences a sudden scare, he or she may feel fear. Fear is anothe emotion. Thje individual may jump and feel as though their stomach is all "churned-up". The heart begins to race, beating faster and harder. Physical changes are taking place inside of the body.

If someone were to ask you to speak in front of a very large group of people, you may experience some of the above feelings. You might even get sweaty palms and/or feel as though your mouth is dried up. Your knees might even get weak. Again, emotion is a physical response of your body.

Happiness also produces physical responses. You may experience calm and a feeling of well-being. If you are extremely happy, you may feel a surge of energy and your heart rate may quicken. You want to "jump for joy", right? So, emotions like happiness, are your body's physical response to its surroundings and outward circumstances.

Medical experts know these feelings are caused by the chemicals each of us produce within our bodies. These chemicals, in turn, are released by the sympathetic branch of your autonomic nervous system and hormones such as adrenaline, which is released from your glands. This may not make sense to either you ot I, however. All we are aware of is that we either feel happy, or angry, or sad, or joyful, right? All these extra natural chemicals and hormones make us want to take action and do something.

Again, keep in mind that feelings such as happiness, are a natural and physical response of your body to outward circumstances..............

When do you feel happy? What causes the emotion of happiness? Most generally, this emotion occurs when you experience or expect to experience pleasure, enjoyment,satisfaction, contentment or the fullfillment of needs such as the basic needs of food, water, sleep, sex, safety and security, or higher needs like love, belonging, self esteem and self actualization.

Also, happiness can occur when you experience or expect to experience the ending of or the avoidance of unpleasant conditions or unfulfilled needs.

Below is a grouping of interconnected ideals that co-relate to this feeling called happiness.
These include circumstances and conditions, beliefs and attitudes, behavior and action, perception and awareness, feelings and emotions, and memory learning.

Now the all important questions are:
Are we stuck with our emotions as they are?
Are we helpless victims of the circumstances that life deals to all of us?

Are we locked up into the small amount of happiness that we all just seem to experience so far?

Is happiness something that just happens to us, or can we control in some way, the amount and degree of happiness we experience?

Can we influence, affect, and even cause more happiness to come into our lives?

The answers to all these important questions is YES! You can control, influence and affect your emotions directly and indirectly through the other five areas that affect your feelings of happiness. You can live a happier life. You can experience more happiness in your life. You can make yourself a happier person.

In summary, you can acquire greater happiness and experience more pleasant feelings and emotions. Happier people are healthier people and are better able to contribute to society and help others. To desire happiness, then, is a good thing.


5 Basic Rules To Being Happy

1. Free your heart from hatred
2. Free your mind from wories
3. Live simply
4. Give more
5. Expect less