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Say goodbye to your toddler's temper tantrums! No longer will you have to endure the public "hollering" blowouts that so many of us have become accustomed to. There are some gentle, easy, persuasive things a parent can try in order to curb their child's need to express his or herself through yelling and screaming.

The most important thing to do is to START EARLY. Most families in this day and age spend a lot of time in public. Whether it be the mall, the grocery store, a soccer game, or a simple outing to the park, much of our time is spent amongst the people in our communities. These frequent occasions are the perfect time to teach your little ones the advantages of not screaming and shouting in order to get what they want. If a parent starts teaching their child why NOT to have a tantrum at an early age, it's much easier to prevent them later.

You must use positive reinforcement. Parents must consistantly tell their child how wonderful they are when they are "being good." These occasions need to be pointed out to little ones. Children enjoy feeling pleasant and well-behaved. It makes them proud to hear others comment on what nice children they are. This method not only will help in preventing tantrums, but it will help build your child's self-confidence for future years.

Nothing is a better learning tool than observation. EVERYTIME you are out in public with your little one and you hear the screams of a nearby tantrum, comment on how relieved you are that he/she doesn't cry and shout for what they want. Tell your child how proud you are of them that they NEVER act as spoiled and rude as the one you are watching kick and scream. Let him or her stop and get a good look and the tantrum-thrower, noting the redness of their face, the embarrassment of their parents, and the annoyed expressions of the other people that are witnessing the event. Your child will definitely not want to be connected in any way to that bratty, embarrassing image.

Reinforce the message you are trying to convey to your little one. The next time that he/she begins "revving up" for a big one, remind him/her of the most recent "monster tantrum" you endured at the mall, park, or other public place. Tell your child that he or she is starting to look like that other tantrum-haver. A toddler has a much better memory than they are sometimes given credit for. They will remember how offensive and embarrassing that other child was. Don't forget to then provide praise and other forms of positive reinforcement for NOT having a tantrum.

Use these tips consistently, and you will have a tantrum-less toddler. In the meantime, good luck on your journey down the long, hard road of parenting!!!!