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At one time or another every parent has had to deal with a temper tantrum. A temper tantrum is essentially a loss of emotional control that can result in crying, whining, screaming, kicking, hitting, and biting. The only good thing about a tantrum is that it is a normal developmental stage for a child.
Dealing with a temper tantrum can be a challenge to even the most seasoned parent. Generally, it is best to ignore this behavior. Any attention given to these fits can fuel future eruptions of rage.
Another strategy for dealing with tantrums is prevention. Of course, not all tantrums can be avoided since they are one of the ways that a child learns and establishes his boundaries. With a little forethought, however, many tantrums can be averted.
Children are smarter than most parents give them credit for. In fact, they understand the world around them sooner than they are able to express their own thoughts and feelings. This can lead to frustration, a common trigger for temper tantrums. If you find that your child is becoming frustrated, head her off at the pass. Give a name to your child's feelings. This may not work at first but keep trying. Another way to help your child out of a volatile situation is by distraction. Lead your child to a new activity that he is more capable of handling.
A third way to avoid tantrums is by making sure
your child is well rested. A tired child is a potentially frustrated child.
Overstimulation and boredom are also states that can send your child over the edge. Moderation is best. Too much of a good thing is as bad as giving nothing.
Finally, be very clear with your child. Explain how you expect your child to behave, keeping in mind that they understand more than you think. Set reasonable limits with fair and consistent consequences for going beyond those limits. Remember any inconsistency can lead to confusion. Confusion can lead to frustration. Frustration can trigger a tantrum.