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Many parents want to help their children learn as much as they possibly can. But the problem many families run into is having the parent-child school relationship become a fighting match rather than an educational experience. It's all a matter of how you talk with your children, and how your children talk to you, about what they're learning in school and what they need to learn.

• Ask your children to show you what they learn in school. Many parents, when they first see their children at the end of the day, ask their children how school was that day. The typical answer is "fine," and that's the end of the conversation. If you'd ask your child to show you specific things they learned in school that day, such as "What did you learn in science class today?" that begins a whole new and valuable relationship. It involves you in the educational experience, and it allows your children to actually show you what they learned, which is a form of studying for them.
• Be nurturing, not confrontational. It's very easy for parents and children to get into arguments over school. You need to avoid those situations. Figure out ways to avoid arguments and create positive learning experiences.
• Always talk with your children. Continue your child's education all the way through graduation. Help him study every day from the day they start kindergarten to the day he graduates. Talk with your child about everything. Help him study if he needs help, help him through social problems, and help him develop his character. These are all important parts of a child's education.
• Become a study mate. Don't teach your children, help them learn. There's a difference. Your child sat looking at teachers all day, they don't want to come home and go through all that again in the evenings. Instead, be a study partner for your child.
• Be involved with your children's school. Possibly the most important thing you can do for your child is be supportive of him in every one of his academic and extra-curricular activities. Attend baseball games, band concerts, and debate team events.