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Neighbors quarrel because close proximity breeds intolerable irritation to another's habit or action. Conflicts range from quarrels about eye-sores, noise, parties, loud music, undisciplined children and property boundaries. There are minor and serious quarrels arising from various disputes. Neighbors quarrel because they can't get along. We cope with difficult neighbors by trying to overcome the problems. We may not become fast friends but at the bare minimum, maintain a civil relationship with them.

Neighbors come from all walks of life and do not share like minds with you. However, all neighbors can learn to be tolerant with each other if they are on friendly terms. Excessive concession to quirks is not encouraged. Neighbors need to be co-operative to maintain a peaceful living environment. You tend to bump into your neighbors anywhere down the street. In other words, you can't run away from your enemy. The best policy is not to make enemies out of your neighbors.

Neighbors may not be your best pals but they deserve respect and courtesy too. If you're holding a party that may be noisy, give your neighbors their dues by inviting them too. That way, nobody feels hurt or offended at the happy noises generated from your party.

Whenever you feel that your right has been violated, it pays to speak up promptly. Fast action relieves pain and keeps grudges away. Talk tactfully to the neighbor by addressing the problem. Don't attack the person. Personal criticism will be met by a defensive stance or worse, a heated exchange of words. It is safer to talk standing on neutral grounds. You can also talk at the gate or over the fence. For your personal safety, it is not advisable to talk in out in your neighbor's house. You never know what kind of hostility awaits you there. Furthermore, you are outnumbered on enemy grounds.

If you can't find a peaceful solution with your difficult neighbor, approach a mediation service. This acts as a neutral go-between, which allows both parties to air their grievances and come to agreement on black and white. This is legally binding.

For immediate and temporary resolution of a problem like noise, you can consider telephoning the police, building inspectors, town officials or any officials handling jurisdiction in the area of concern.

Keep a diary of the occurrences of that irritant. You'll have proof to confront your neighbor about that problem. He or she will realize that you mean business and will exert a conscious effort to rectify or improve the situation. If that doesn't happen, a record will in useful when you decide to take legal action.

Before seeking legal recourse, check the law governing the area concerned. You may send a copy of the relevant law to your neighbor to remind him of your accessibility to legal recourse.

Disagreements over neighborly concerns can find pleasant solutions. The first step is to address the problem diplomatically. Good luck to good riddance for your thorn in the flesh!